This post is really for men.
Let’s say you’re in love with a girl or maybe just extremely like her but she doesn’t like you back, what should you do? Well, there are three options: drop her, befriend her, or wait for her.
Sometimes dropping a girl is the easiest thing a man can do because there are no strings attached. You can do the whole bullshit “let’s be friends” but you know that you’ll never be friends unless you really want to be. Befriending her can get messy especially if you really like her and so if you’re going to stay her friend, it’s best to give both of you space.
But then there’s always waiting.
Now, waiting has its positives and negatives. You could be waiting for this girl for years and that could be a real strain on your heart and unless you see improvement, it’s not worth it. You see, when you wait for a girl to discover that she likes you and wants to date you or has the same feelings you do for her, you could be waiting days, months or even years. It’s a huge commitment and you better be ready for it but you also better be ready to drop the whole escapade. Clinging on to anything for too long is not a good thing.
But if you want to wait for a girl, there are many options you can try.
The minute she finds out that you like her, you could somewhat drop her but still remain friends. The trick is that you don’t see her every day and you start limiting your hangout dates and expand them over long periods of time (maybe once a month) to see if anything changes. What you really want is for her to miss you. If you appear after a long period of time and her eyes light up when she sees you, that’s a good sign. That means that she genuinely misses you and maybe has thought about you two as a couple.
However, since you really care about her, you could always just constantly make hangout dates with her, but don’t rearrange your schedule for her. Let the chips fall where they may. Then, when you’ve had a few months of hangout time, take a break. Don’t see her for a couple of weeks or even a month. Don’t prolong the gap too long because she may have moved on by then but if you disappear for a short period of time, the odds could be in your favour. Whether you actually take a trip or just disappear for a month or a few weeks, you’ve got to tell her something like you’re going on a trip or you have an exam to study for, etc. You can’t just cut her out as she won’t like that and will wonder why. It’s probably best to take a trip or something rather than lie but that’s up to you.
But when you do disappear, make sure that she knows that you’re going to wait for her. Even if she doesn’t want you to wait and wants you to move on, the thought of waiting has been etched in her brain. And when you disappear and reappear, her thoughts about waiting may have changed.
Sometime you have to wait, love.