Word of the Day


Mac Dictionary’s definition:


verb [ with obj. ] archaic
announce (something).

ORIGIN late Middle English (originally as a past participle): from medieval Latin annunciat-, variant spelling of Latin annuntiat- ‘announced,’ from the verb annuntiare.

Have you ever annunciated something?

Word of the Day


Mac Dictionary’s definition:


adjective [ attrib. ]
exuberantly lively and amusing: good rollicking fun.

rollicking 2 |ˈrälikiNG| (also rollocking)
noun [ in sing. ] Brit. informal
a severe reprimand.

rollick |ˈrälik|
verb [ no obj. ] rare
act or behave in a jovial and exuberant fashion.

ORIGIN early 19th cent.: probably dialect, perhaps a blend of romp and frolic.

Are you rollicking?

Word of the Day


Mac Dictionary’s definition:


1 the willingness to take bold risks: her audacity came in handy during our most recent emergency.
2 rude or disrespectful behavior; impudence: she had the audacity to pick up the receiver and ask me to hang up.

ORIGIN late Middle English: from medieval Latin audacitas, from audax, audac- ‘bold’ (see audacious).

Do you have audacity for business?

Word of the Day


Someone who wears too much jean clothing. If you’re a true Levi you wear a jean jacket over top a jean shirt and jeans. Maybe you even have jean shoes to go along with your outfit.

Hey, you must feel pretty warm or boiling. If you’re cold, there’s something wrong with you. But there’s something wrong with all of us.

Are you a Levi?

Never Look, Only Find

They say that when you don’t look, you find. This is sound advice.

One reason is that when you’re not seeking, you let your guard down. You just play it naturally and see where things end up. “Go with the flow” as some people say.

When you search, you get stressed. What if I don’t find her? What if I don’t find him? These are unhealthy thoughts. You will find her. You will find him. You’ve just got to be patient. Sometimes the best way to be in a relationship is to be in one but not realise you’re in one.

What I mean by that is this: you could be friends with someone and that someone could become your lifelong partner. They might not but if you let things play out the way they were meant to be, you’ll find out.

The point is to have fun.

You can’t go about your life thinking that this person is the one or this one is the one or this person is the one. You’ll know who the one is when they are the one. BELIEVE ME.

These days, young people don’t seem to be really interested in dating; just flinging. And it seems that most use this as a method to try things out before they settle down. But if you’re old fashioned, you won’t like this idea. You’ll want a committed relationship and if you want this, you’re going to have to wait.

But don’t grow impatient. You’ll find them. I know you will. Just don’t establish with everyone that you know that you want to date them. Pick up people in bars if you have to or the library or anywhere, but I suggest you don’t and just be patient. Maybe you’ll pick someone up without even trying. The trick is to be yourself and when you’re yourself, you let your guard down. And when you let your guard down, you become more approachable.

Maybe let the one you’re hanging out with decide if you should date or be in a relationship. Then it’s not your decision anymore, it’s theirs. However, this can backfire if you don’t particularly like the person in that way.

So just live your life and you will find when you have no intentions in mind.

Sometimes people who are in relationships are the most attractive. I’m just throwing that out there.

Who knows, maybe you’ll be dating that person when they break up with their significant other. Who knows, who knows? Seriously, who does know? Well, not you that’s for sure.

Live you life, love.

-The Rufflovologist

Do Not Dress Less Than Your Partner

Everyone says that the girl always looks better dressed than the guy. I have not witnessed this with same sex relationships so I assume that when you’re in a same sex relationship, you dress well. But that could be my own bias.

But if you’re in a heterosexual relationship, so many times the boy looks like he just didn’t care. And maybe he doesn’t but do you really want to show that off? If you’re girl’s wearing a dress, wear a dress shirt at least and some nice jeans. If she’s just wearing a sweatshirt, than rock your T-shirt. But you shouldn’t be overdressed or underdressed with her.

And this also refers to restaurants. You don’t want to be the guy that ended up wearing the baggy jeans when everyone else is wearing suits. Well, I would assume you know that’s not right. If anything, follow your girlfriend to know what you should wear. If she wears a sweatshirt, than it’s T-shirt time. Maybe she made a mistake and you’re actually going to a suit place but it’s best to look like idiots together. Because then you can support each other and not care. If one looks like an idiot and the other doesn’t, well then the one who’s the idiot is going to fell embarrassed and you don’t want that.

This also refers to girls, but, from what I’ve seen, girls do not need this advice because they’re always well dressed. Of course, there are a bunch of women that aren’t so to those few women out there, follow your man.

Dress to impress, people, not to distress.

Impress me, love.

-The Rufflovologist

Word of the Day


Mac Dictionary’s definition:


of or denoting the Socratic mode of inquiry, which aims to bring a person’s latent ideas into clear consciousness.

pl.noun (maieutics) [ treated as sing. ]
the maieutic method.

ORIGIN mid 17th cent.: from Greek maieutikos, from maieuesthai ‘act as a midwife,’ from maia ‘midwife.’

Have you used the maieutic method?

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Mac Dictionary’s definition:


the action or process of correcting something: I checked the typing for errors and sent it back for correction.
• a change that rectifies an error or inaccuracy: he made a few corrections to my homework.
• used to introduce an amended version of something one has just said: after today—correction, she thought grimly, after tonight—she’d never see him again.
• a quantity adjusting a numerical result to allow for a departure from standard conditions.
• a temporary reversal in an overall trend of stock market prices, esp. a brief fall during an overall increase: they’re still looking for the market to go up and believe we are just going through a correction.
• punishment, esp. that of criminals in prison intended to rectify their behavior.

ORIGIN Middle English: via Old French from Latin correctio(n-), from corrigere ‘make straight, bring into order’ (see correct) .

What have you made a correction on recently?

Never Change Your Writing for an Audience

I just read the latest post on a writing forum on Linkedin and I’m appalled. The fact that people suggest writers write specific subject matter to sell more books is appalling.

As an artist, your work is your work and not someone else’s so don’t let anyone tell you otherwise. O.K., I mean if an editor or agent tells you that you should fix this sentence or this scene needs more, etc., etc., etc., then I understand. Yes, listen to them. They’re trying to make your work better. But if anyone suggests (even if it’s your agent or editor) that you should write a sex scene just for the sake of a sex scene, don’t do it.

I hate to tell you this, but if you’re writing for the money, find a new job. Writing is not about making money. I mean, yes, we all want to make money. That’s understandable. And of course it would be awesome if you got paid for your art, but you should be writing because you enjoy writing, not because you want to make money. If you’re interested in money, go into business. They’re always hiring.

But if you’re actually interested in being a writer, then money is not your first priority, writing is.

Many writers have to work other jobs just so they can support themselves. And not all those jobs are writing involved. You could work in a grocery store or some other minimum wage job. Though, granted, I would hope that by the time you’re 40 you’re not working at some job like that but sometimes it can’t be helped.

But back to writing.

Yes, you can be published with trash. It’s been known to happen: Twilight, 50 Shades of Grey, and probably any erotic novel. But if these are the books that interest you, read new books. I’m serious. It pisses me off when these writers are published. This is not literature, this is crap. And crap should not be published but it is. And it seems that crap sells and that shouldn’t be but there are clearly a lot of crapminded people in this world (in other words, uneducated when it comes to literature).

But this wasn’t supposed to become a hatespeech.

I don’t know about you, but I would be embarrassed if I made money off crap. You should enjoy what you write, not be disgusted by it. I don’t know, maybe these writers actually think their work is good and weren’t just aiming to sell books.

Of course your aim should be to sell books, but don’t drastically change your book unless you want to. Remember, it’s your book and not someone else’s so don’t let someone else decide what’s write.

Don’t get me wrong, there are franchises that contain well written books like Harry Potter. Some would argue that Harry Potter is not literature but I’m pretty sure we’ve now thrown it into that category.

Anyway, whether it’s classified as “literature” or not is not the point. The point is that it’s well written and it’s not trash.

But if you enjoy writing trash, go ahead, write your crap. But I’m not going to read it and neither should anyone else.

If You’re Still Single, Don’t Fret

Unless you’re over 50, then you might worry. Well, if you wanted to have children and a marriage that lasts. But you can still have children at 50 so I’m no judge.


But this post is really for the younger generations: the teens, the 20s, the 30s, and possibly the early 40s.

            To some people being single is a huge deal. Well, it can be especially if you’re a virgin but even if you’re a virgin or not, don’t worry, it will happen. But that’s a different post.

            If you’re single, don’t give up but maybe you shouldn’t be looking either. They say when you’re not looking, you find someone. Who knows, maybe it will happen to you.

            Maybe you enjoy the hunt though and like scoping the woods for them. O.K., maybe that was a bad metaphor but you see my point.

            And besides, even if you’re single and young, the whole world is at your fingertips and with that in mind, maybe a significant other would hold you down. Maybe not, but everyone feels more free when they’re alone.

            So, if you’re single don’t fret and don’t forget that love will find a way. Somehow, some way, love will find a way.

So stay strong, love.

-The Rufflovologist