I don’t know how many people believe in this theory but if you haven’t heard of it, the theory is this: if you take a girl to see The F Word (starring Daniel Radcliffe and Zoe Kazan) and she is someone who is unsure of where your relationship is going (or maybe you are), by the end of the movie she’ll know. In other words, if you’re interested in a girl but she’s not really sure she wants to be with you, when you leave the movie she’ll want to be.
I have only heard this theory when a boy is with a girl but maybe it can work vice versa or boy with boy or girl with girl. However, note that a boy’s mind is different than a girl’s so if you have two of the same sex and one friend is trying to date the other, they might not be thinking the same way as someone who’s interested in the opposite sex would be. Or maybe they would. I mean, they have argued that homosexuals have some of the same brain qualities as females.
Anyway, the point is not that if you’re gay or straight. The point is that if you take anyone you’re interested in to see this movie, they’ll fall in love with you in the end. Basically, that’s the theory. Maybe “love” is a strong word but basically that’s what I’ve been hearing.
But let me clarify something. A movie does not make up someone’s mind. You do that yourself. So if the person you’re interested in wants to date you at the end of the movie, that was their choice and the movie might have pushed her towards that decision but it might not have.
If you want to think about how the brain works, chances are those thoughts of you two being together were already in their mind but in the unconscious. The movie just brought them forward. They saw how Wallace and Chantry interacted and maybe thought that was kind of like your relationship. Well, Wallace and Chantry get together at the end. I hope I didn’t ruin the film for you if you haven’t seen it. But seriously, it’s kind of obvious. That’s how romantic comedies work, the boy gets the girl or the girl gets the boy.
But back to my point.
Do not take anyone to see this movie and expect to score at the end. If the person you’re with never thought about you in a dating sense, then you’ll leave the theatre the same way you did when you entered it.
The F Word is not a spell that Harry Potter (obviously played by Danile Radcliffe) has put on the audience. Chances are that those thoughts were already in their brains. The F Word didn’t create them, they did.
So go ahead and take a girl or guy you’re interested in to this movie, but don’t expect to be dating them at the end. Love doesn’t work that way.
The F Word doesn’t just stand for one thing and in your case it might just stand for “friend”.
Don’t expect, love, just live.