The F Word Theory

I don’t know how many people believe in this theory but if you haven’t heard of it, the theory is this: if you take a girl to see The F Word (starring Daniel Radcliffe and Zoe Kazan) and she is someone who is unsure of where your relationship is going (or maybe you are), by the end of the movie she’ll know. In other words, if you’re interested in a girl but she’s not really sure she wants to be with you, when you leave the movie she’ll want to be.

I have only heard this theory when a boy is with a girl but maybe it can work vice versa or boy with boy or girl with girl. However, note that a boy’s mind is different than a girl’s so if you have two of the same sex and one friend is trying to date the other, they might not be thinking the same way as someone who’s interested in the opposite sex would be. Or maybe they would. I mean, they have argued that homosexuals have some of the same brain qualities as females.

Anyway, the point is not that if you’re gay or straight. The point is that if you take anyone you’re interested in to see this movie, they’ll fall in love with you in the end. Basically, that’s the theory. Maybe “love” is a strong word but basically that’s what I’ve been hearing.

But let me clarify something. A movie does not make up someone’s mind. You do that yourself. So if the person you’re interested in wants to date you at the end of the movie, that was their choice and the movie might have pushed her towards that decision but it might not have.

If you want to think about how the brain works, chances are those thoughts of you two being together were already in their mind but in the unconscious. The movie just brought them forward. They saw how Wallace and Chantry interacted and maybe thought that was kind of like your relationship. Well, Wallace and Chantry get together at the end. I hope I didn’t ruin the film for you if you haven’t seen it. But seriously, it’s kind of obvious. That’s how romantic comedies work, the boy gets the girl or the girl gets the boy.

But back to my point.

Do not take anyone to see this movie and expect to score at the end. If the person you’re with never thought about you in a dating sense, then you’ll leave the theatre the same way you did when you entered it.

The F Word is not a spell that Harry Potter (obviously played by Danile Radcliffe) has put on the audience. Chances are that those thoughts were already in their brains. The F Word didn’t create them, they did.

So go ahead and take a girl or guy you’re interested in to this movie, but don’t expect to be dating them at the end. Love doesn’t work that way.

The F Word doesn’t just stand for one thing and in your case it might just stand for “friend”.

Don’t expect, love, just live.

-The Rufflovologist


Word of the Day


According to Urban Dictionary:

An illegal immigrant.
Officer: There’s a charlie boy living in this apartment!
Immigrant: No there isn’t
But I believe a charlieboy is an extremely attractive man who might have somewhat of a baby face. Basically, any guy that has girls flocking after him is a charlieboy.
So if a charlieboy is an illegal immigrant, he’s a damn goodlooking one.
Would you consider yourself a charlieboy?


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adjective Medicine
(of therapy) applied after initial treatment for cancer, esp. to suppress secondary tumor formation.

noun Medicine
a substance that enhances the body’s immune response to an antigen.

ORIGIN late 16th cent.: from Latin adjuvant- ‘helping toward,’ from the verb adjuvare, from ad- ‘toward’ + juvare ‘to help.’

Do you know anyone who had adjuvant applied to them?

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Mac Dictionary’s definition:


verb [ with obj. ] archaic
announce (something).

ORIGIN late Middle English (originally as a past participle): from medieval Latin annunciat-, variant spelling of Latin annuntiat- ‘announced,’ from the verb annuntiare.

Have you ever annunciated something?

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Mac Dictionary’s definition:


adjective [ attrib. ]
exuberantly lively and amusing: good rollicking fun.

rollicking 2 |ˈrälikiNG| (also rollocking)
noun [ in sing. ] Brit. informal
a severe reprimand.

rollick |ˈrälik|
verb [ no obj. ] rare
act or behave in a jovial and exuberant fashion.

ORIGIN early 19th cent.: probably dialect, perhaps a blend of romp and frolic.

Are you rollicking?

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Mac Dictionary’s definition:


1 the willingness to take bold risks: her audacity came in handy during our most recent emergency.
2 rude or disrespectful behavior; impudence: she had the audacity to pick up the receiver and ask me to hang up.

ORIGIN late Middle English: from medieval Latin audacitas, from audax, audac- ‘bold’ (see audacious).

Do you have audacity for business?

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Someone who wears too much jean clothing. If you’re a true Levi you wear a jean jacket over top a jean shirt and jeans. Maybe you even have jean shoes to go along with your outfit.

Hey, you must feel pretty warm or boiling. If you’re cold, there’s something wrong with you. But there’s something wrong with all of us.

Are you a Levi?

Never Look, Only Find

They say that when you don’t look, you find. This is sound advice.

One reason is that when you’re not seeking, you let your guard down. You just play it naturally and see where things end up. “Go with the flow” as some people say.

When you search, you get stressed. What if I don’t find her? What if I don’t find him? These are unhealthy thoughts. You will find her. You will find him. You’ve just got to be patient. Sometimes the best way to be in a relationship is to be in one but not realise you’re in one.

What I mean by that is this: you could be friends with someone and that someone could become your lifelong partner. They might not but if you let things play out the way they were meant to be, you’ll find out.

The point is to have fun.

You can’t go about your life thinking that this person is the one or this one is the one or this person is the one. You’ll know who the one is when they are the one. BELIEVE ME.

These days, young people don’t seem to be really interested in dating; just flinging. And it seems that most use this as a method to try things out before they settle down. But if you’re old fashioned, you won’t like this idea. You’ll want a committed relationship and if you want this, you’re going to have to wait.

But don’t grow impatient. You’ll find them. I know you will. Just don’t establish with everyone that you know that you want to date them. Pick up people in bars if you have to or the library or anywhere, but I suggest you don’t and just be patient. Maybe you’ll pick someone up without even trying. The trick is to be yourself and when you’re yourself, you let your guard down. And when you let your guard down, you become more approachable.

Maybe let the one you’re hanging out with decide if you should date or be in a relationship. Then it’s not your decision anymore, it’s theirs. However, this can backfire if you don’t particularly like the person in that way.

So just live your life and you will find when you have no intentions in mind.

Sometimes people who are in relationships are the most attractive. I’m just throwing that out there.

Who knows, maybe you’ll be dating that person when they break up with their significant other. Who knows, who knows? Seriously, who does know? Well, not you that’s for sure.

Live you life, love.

-The Rufflovologist

Do Not Dress Less Than Your Partner

Everyone says that the girl always looks better dressed than the guy. I have not witnessed this with same sex relationships so I assume that when you’re in a same sex relationship, you dress well. But that could be my own bias.

But if you’re in a heterosexual relationship, so many times the boy looks like he just didn’t care. And maybe he doesn’t but do you really want to show that off? If you’re girl’s wearing a dress, wear a dress shirt at least and some nice jeans. If she’s just wearing a sweatshirt, than rock your T-shirt. But you shouldn’t be overdressed or underdressed with her.

And this also refers to restaurants. You don’t want to be the guy that ended up wearing the baggy jeans when everyone else is wearing suits. Well, I would assume you know that’s not right. If anything, follow your girlfriend to know what you should wear. If she wears a sweatshirt, than it’s T-shirt time. Maybe she made a mistake and you’re actually going to a suit place but it’s best to look like idiots together. Because then you can support each other and not care. If one looks like an idiot and the other doesn’t, well then the one who’s the idiot is going to fell embarrassed and you don’t want that.

This also refers to girls, but, from what I’ve seen, girls do not need this advice because they’re always well dressed. Of course, there are a bunch of women that aren’t so to those few women out there, follow your man.

Dress to impress, people, not to distress.

Impress me, love.

-The Rufflovologist

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Mac Dictionary’s definition:


of or denoting the Socratic mode of inquiry, which aims to bring a person’s latent ideas into clear consciousness.

pl.noun (maieutics) [ treated as sing. ]
the maieutic method.

ORIGIN mid 17th cent.: from Greek maieutikos, from maieuesthai ‘act as a midwife,’ from maia ‘midwife.’

Have you used the maieutic method?