Despite contradiction, fucking isn’t lovemaking. Why? Well, that’s a good question.
The reason is that when you make love, you’re actually doing that: making love; creating love with another, participating in love because you love them.
If you write that you fucked them, all that meaning is lost.
Fucking is what pornstars do. Fucking is for one night stands that are meaningless sex. You should call it fucking whenever you do it with someone without love.
Fucking is really just consented rape. I mean, think about this way, what’s better:
“We fucked” or “We made love”?
I would think “we made love” as “we fucked” sounds so harsh when someone says it. But if you said “we made love” when you clearly didn’t, well, you’re just lying to yourself, whoever you were with, and whoever you’re telling.
Here’s a passage from my novel Drunk to help you understand love better:
I was now lying in bed with Blaire, with the sheets overtop of us. We had done it, but very slowly. And as the stereotypical man would want to go in fast and hard, it felt so romantic and loving. With my skin pressed up against Blaire’s, it felt like the love from each of us was drifting into the other. I now understand why it’s called “making love” because it seemed any love for each other we had had before, had been heightened and that we actually did feel love go through us.
I personally believe that you should never fuck someone but then I also believe you should never participate in meaningless sex so I think a lot of people would disagree with me here.
I believe that when you engage in sexual intercourse, it should be meaningful and it should be with someone you love. Otherwise, you’re just fucking.
Do it right,
-The Rufflovologist
